Talking to Family and Friends About the Crisis
After a crisis, it can be hard to know what to say or how much to share.
1. Talk With Your Child First
Decide together:
- Who will be told?
- How much to share?
- What words to use?
Example: “We had a mental-health emergency. We’re getting help and focusing on healing.”
2. Talking With Siblings
Children may feel scared or confused
Help by:
- Using simple, honest language.
- Avoiding details about harm.
- Reassuring them that it is not their fault.
- Keeping routines steady.
3. Talking With Extended Family and Friends
- Keep messages focused on healing.
- Avoid sharing details of the crisis.
- Protect your child’s privacy.
- You do not owe anyone an explanation.
4. Managing Gossip or Community Reactions
If information spreads:
- Correct misinformation calmly.
- Focus on awareness and hope.
- Avoid sharing details that could increase harm
- Encourage others to seek support if needed.
5. Getting Support for Yourself
Talking with a Family Support Specialist, counselor, or trusted person can help.
Resources:
Reach Out Oregon Help Line: 833-732-4267 | www.reachoutoregon.org
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or Text 988 (24/7, free and confidential)
YouthLine (for teens): 877-968-8491 | Text “teen2teen” to 839863
6. Over Time
You can change what you share as time passes. Healing conversations take practice.
Be gentle with yourself and your family.
FAQs
..What if I don’t feel safe with my child? I feel embarrassed and like a bad parent, but they hurt me and I don’t know what else to do.
You are not a bad parent.
Feeling unsafe is a real and valid concern. You can:
- Ask for immediate help.
- Call 988 for guidance
- Ask about respite or higher levels of care
You can say:
“I love my child, and I am not safe right now.”
Asking for help is an act of care.