Talking to Family and Friends About the Crisis
After a crisis, it can be hard to know what to say or how much to share.
1. Talk With Your Youth First
Decide together:
- Who will be told?
- How much to share?
- What words to use?
Example: “We had a mental-health emergency. We’re getting help and focusing on healing.”
2. Talking With Siblings
Other youth in the family may feel scared or confused
Help by:
- Using simple, honest language.
- Avoiding details about harm.
- Reassuring them that it is not their fault.
- Keeping routines steady.
3. Talking With Extended Family and Friends
- Keep messages focused on healing.
- Avoid sharing details of the crisis.
- Protect your youth’s privacy.
- You do not owe anyone an explanation.
5. Getting Support for Yourself
Talking with a Family Support Specialist, counselor, or trusted person can help.
4. Managing Gossip or Community Reactions
If information spreads:
- Correct misinformation calmly.
- Focus on awareness and hope.
- Avoid sharing details that could increase harm.
- Encourage others to seek support if needed.
6. Over Time
You can change what you share as time passes. Healing conversations take practice.
Be gentle with yourself and your family.
Resources:
Reach Out Oregon Parent Warmline: 1-833-732-2467 | www.reachoutoregon.org
(Monday – Friday, 10am to 4pm)
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or Text 988
(24/7, free and confidential)
YouthLine (for teens): 877-968-8491 | Text “teen2teen” to 839863