I really appreciate your willingness to share from a vulnerable space. The struggle is most definitely real. My neurodivergent daughter is now 12, and for us, things have gotten easier as her brain matures and develops. She still struggles immensely with organization and planning, but her emotional regulation has slowly but surely began to improve since puberty set in. As her “upstairs brain’ continues to develop she is able to be much more intentional now than when she was at 8. That subconscious lizard brain that drives bottom up behavior has become less and less in the forefront for her. I am neurodivergent myself and have learned a lot in therapy. Modeling self awareness and self compassion has been extremely helpful in getting her and her older brothers on board with seeing her through a different lens. Explaining to my middle son, who has never experienced these challenges himself, about sensory processing differences and how they can effect behavior has also been helpful. We have had many open conversations about the challenges he experiences, as he has two behaviorally complex siblings. His brother is 8 years older than him so he was born into the experience. I can imagine it is much harder when the youngest is introducing these challenges to the family. Isn’t it wild how different our children can all be? the best advise I can give is to keep leading with love and curiosity. and let us remember that well behaved women never make history!