I can relate! With my son who’s on autism spectrum, up until about 4th grade I used to fuss about him “fitting in” and I remember feeling like I used to just never wanted his feelings to be hurt so I wanted to coach him on things to say and not say. He was totally brilliant though, one day he said, really low key, ‘I’ve got this.’ He knew so much better than I did that he needed to be free and not closed in by advice that would help him be so-called normal. He was so, so smart and I finally learned I couldn’t and was never meant to get in the way of him being his true self.